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YATED SHIDDUCH FORUM 10/7/22: SHOULD I DUMP HIM BECAUSE HE DIDN'T CHECK MY REFERENCES?
OCTOBER 7, 2022

YATED SHIDDUCH FORUM 10/7/22: SHOULD I DUMP HIM BECAUSE HE DIDN'T CHECK MY REFERENCES?

Question: I just went on a fifth date with a bochur. He seemed like he was looking for a husband, until he dropped a bombshell by disclosing that he nor his parents checked any of my references. His rationale behind refusing to check references was his preference for natural face-to-face...

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YATED SHIDDUCH FORUM 8/26/22: WE HAVE CAR TROUBLES. CAN I ASK THE WOMAN I AM DATING TO BORROW HER CAR INSTEAD?
AUGUST 26, 2022

YATED SHIDDUCH FORUM 8/26/22: WE HAVE CAR TROUBLES. CAN I ASK THE WOMAN I AM DATING TO BORROW HER CAR INSTEAD?

Question: I recently had the following dilemma. Our family car was not drivable and we needed a car for my date. Would it have been appropriate to have the shadchan ask the girl's side if we can use her car for the date? Or should I just have spent the money and rented a car?...

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YATED SHIDDUCH FORUM 8/12/22: HOW TO HANDLE SHIDDUCH RESEARCH CALLS FROM ANONYMOUS CALLS?
AUGUST 12, 2022

YATED SHIDDUCH FORUM 8/12/22: HOW TO HANDLE SHIDDUCH RESEARCH CALLS FROM ANONYMOUS CALLS?

Question: I have a follow-up to the question from a few weeks ago about serving as a shidduch reference. Recently, quite a few times, I got calls about singles from people, but they refused to provide their name or their relationship to the shidduch (meaning if it's for their son, daughter, or some other...

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YATED SHIDDUCH FORUM 8/5/22: WHEN SHOULD I INTRODUCE MY PROSPECTIVE KALLAH, BEZH, TO MY GRANDPARENTS?
AUGUST 5, 2022

YATED SHIDDUCH FORUM 8/5/22: WHEN SHOULD I INTRODUCE MY PROSPECTIVE KALLAH, BEZH, TO MY GRANDPARENTS?

Question: What is the protocol regarding when to tell grandparents of a pending engagement? Also, is there an inyan for a chosson to take his potential kallah to meet his grandparents – and if yes, when?

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YATED SHIDDUCH FORUM 7/1/22: WHEN SHOULD I DISCLOSE MY MEDICAL CONDITION TO A PROSPECTIVE SHIDDUCH?
JULY 1, 2022

YATED SHIDDUCH FORUM 7/1/22: WHEN SHOULD I DISCLOSE MY MEDICAL CONDITION TO A PROSPECTIVE SHIDDUCH?

Question: I am a 20-year-old Bas Yisakov girl in shidduchim and I have had Crohn's disease since I was very young – 10-11 years old. I began shidduchim and have a question for the panel before I begin to date. Let me give you some background information so that you can best answer my question.

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YATED SHIDDUCH FORUM 6/24/22: I AM A CHILD OF DIVORCE IN SHIDDUCHIM. WHY DO PEOPLE SEEM TO HOLD THIS AGAINST ME?
JUNE 24, 2022

YATED SHIDDUCH FORUM 6/24/22: I AM A CHILD OF DIVORCE IN SHIDDUCHIM. WHY DO PEOPLE SEEM TO HOLD THIS AGAINST ME?

Question: I am a child of divorce who has been in shidduchim now for 10 years. Over the years, I've been privy to overhearing people speak about their deep dread of children of divorce in shidduchim. I have even been turned down for exactly that reason. Seeing as our parents' marriages are not something we have any control over...

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